Say your husband wants to take you out to eat. You're like "ok but I'm going to have a salad" because well---that's what you're in the mood for! Then your husband gets upset and starts bitching "I'm not taking you out to have a salad, if you wanted a salad you can eat that at home" to which you reply "WTF? It's MY choice, let me eat what I want". Of course you're thinking "I really don't want to pay to eat a salad out when I can make a much better and cheaper one at home" but you know your husband just HAS to have his steak. And so in the end, neither of you go because he just can't handle the salad thing.
And then there's the trip to Publix on an afternoon when you had lots of errands after work and you're both tired. Your husband wants a sub so you don't have to cook dinner. Ok fine! You're all for that right? Till he says "yeah why don't you get one too?" and you're thinking "hmm I've eaten a bit more than I should have today I think I'll take it easy on dinner" and you tell your husband "I think I'll skip the sub and have something like a salad at home" to which he replies "well if you don't get one, I don't get one".
Of course he gets a sub anyway because you nag him to death about letting you decide what YOU want to eat and why the hell should you both have to eat the same damn thing?
If you don't WANT to eat a steak why should you have to in order to make him happy?
If you don't WANT to eat a sub why should you have to in order to make him happy?
I mean hello---eating what you want is YOUR choice, not his!
Yes, I'm talking about ME and my HUSBAND. Why should HE feel guilty if he has a sub and I don't or if he has a steak and I don't.