Tuesday, January 17, 2017

Whether we like it or not, Trump is our President.

I'm listening to all the hype right now about the inauguration and all I can say is whether we like it or not, Donald Trump will be our new President this Friday. You can shout all you want that he's an illegitimate President because he lost the popular vote but we do not choose Presidents using that method. Don't like it? Change the law. Until then, there was no real indication of voting fraud and it seems this man won the electoral vote and --- well --- he is our next Commander-In-Chief. I didn't vote for him but protesting his legitimacy is such a waste of time. I feel that instead of griping and calling for a halt to the inauguration (like THAT's going to happen!), we should be using our time and talents doing something constructive to make America, and the world, a better place. Don't youthink this is a far better use of our time?

Sunday, January 15, 2017

Sleep is King.


I've been tired and in pain for a long time. I could not figure out what was wrong with me until I visited a Rheumatologist who did all the tests and confirmed I do not have RA, MS, or any other debilitating disease. He said, in no uncertain terms, "You need to get enough sleep". That's right. He told me that a lack of sleep is causing all my problems. If I had enough sleep, I wouldn't be so tired during the day, would have more energy to exercise and would have a better attitude.

*She says as she writes this at 9:36 p.m.*

Go To Bed, Jess!

Saturday, January 14, 2017

Antique watches I can't place...

Would love to find the history on these. Part of my great aunt's extensive collection of antiques and jewelry we inherited after she passed away. 

Sussex seven-jewel ladies lapel watch. Seems more 1940s. The backside is glass, you can see the inner workings of the timepiece through it.

"H.W.C." on the face of this watch pendant. There are two chains that lead to one chain which holds the pendant. The numbers look rather old, I'm thinking early 1900s to 1920s. There was a pocket watch company called H.W.C. but on their website all the watches have serial nunbers, this clearly does not.  Believe it or not, this still ticks. In short spurts. I wind it up, it ticks awhile then stops. Needs cleaning on the inside no doubt then it'll likely work.

Friday, January 13, 2017

Therapy is a necessity in life

Therapy is great, everyone should try it. If anything, it teaches you to be stronger. Don't listen to anyone who tells you that having to go to therapy is a sign of weakness. No, admitting you need help is an incredible sign of strength. Family and friends are great to talk to in a pinch but they're no therapists. They can't be objective and let's face it, what you need when you're pouring your heart out is objectivity.

So, go see a therapist today.

Monday, January 02, 2017

It is true, you can't take it with you...

My great aunt passed away in November at the age of 93. A wonderful woman we all loved dearly, she was my grandmother's only sister and her death came unexpectedly eighteen months after our beloved grams. We had fully expected to spend Thanksgiving with her but alas, it was not meant to be.

My great aunt had two very good friends, a married couple and the husband is the executor of her estate and my mom, her sister, my sister and I will be meeting them next week to go through my great aunt's things and bring home those things we want.  

I'll admit it feels weird to go through someone's things after they're gone. It just feels like an invasion of privacy. My great aunt, if she was still here, would laugh it off. She was one of those individuals who felt very strongly, "You can't take it with you". Her Catholic faith was far much more important to her than any material object. She often asked us what of her things we wanted, and we just had a difficult time with that because well...how do you tell someone "I want this..." and "I want that...". However that's how she was and she was very close to the four of us and of course she adored her only nieces and wanted my mom and my aunt to have the things she cherished most as well as anything she possessed that they could use or would make their lives easier.

Most important to us above all are the family heirlooms, things that were passed down from my great grandmother and her family before her, items that came over from Sicily when my great grandmother emigrated to NYC in the late 1890s. These are things that mean a lot to us. And then comes the usual--kitchen items, garage, linens, furniture, odds and ends. My great aunt had a beautiful home and she and her husbands (her first, my dear great uncle died from Alzheimers after 58years of marriage and the second was Bill, a retired Navy Chief and dear man, who died of cancer a few years ago) had very nice things. And of course they could because they never had children! Seriously though, beautiful things don't mean anything to me. I'm more about sentimentality and functionality. I take great pride in things passed down through the family and I'm all about things you can use for your household, things that don't just look nice, but are functional. My great aunt, who was a very social woman who loved to host dinner parties, believed in both beauty and functionality and she was a very practical woman. She didn't believe in an item going to waste. She would want the things she used every day to go on and be used again and again until they were no longer functional.

Of all the things I could have of hers, what I really want---besides family heirlooms and her craft collection (my great aunt was a naturally-gifted artist!), the wall-mounted flat screen and a few other kitchen items and linens is her....

...bright red toaster oven and matching coffee pot!

Sounds crazy, right? Every appliance in her kitchen was bright red and I have not a single red appliance to my name. And that lipstick-red toaster oven and coffee pot (a red so bright it matched perfectly that red lipstick she and grams wore most of their lives) will look so completely out of place in my kitchen and yet every time I see them that I can't help but think of her.  I'll think of the exact shade of toast she preferred, how precise she was about making the perfect cup of coffee, how meticulous she was about keep her appliances cleaned and maintained. Whatever other red things I can bring home, I will. And eventually I will probably wind up decorating my entire kitchen around those appliances.

And I'm sure my great aunt would've approved!

We all miss her very much and I've been dreading this trip because she died at home and the last time we saw her there, she was alive and then there's the awkwardness of dividing up her things. But I just have to keep in mind that yes, they are just things and if she could read this right now she'd laugh and dismiss my silly notions and reassure me as always,"you can't take it with you."

Sunday, January 01, 2017

Do your part...

If every person in the world did their part, looked out for their neighbors, treated others with kindness, helped those in need and became better stewards of the earth, a lot of the world's problems could be solved. We don't need politicians to solve the biggest problem we have---which is just getting along.

Put aside your differences and figure out a way to work together. Be a good person, treat others with kindness and compassion, be generous and help people and animals in need, and treat the earth like it's your home--which it IS. Do the right thing.

One more thing...think before you speak, before you act, walk away from trouble when you can. Don't instigate, don't confront, just let it go. It could save your life and someone else's too.

Congratulations on making it another year.